Infidelity

In the Book of Hebrews, Chapter 13, we read in verse 4 that “Marriage is honorable in all…….” In other words, you should get married instead of being an ascetic. In the days of Paul, there were folks who felt if they were ascetic, they could be more spiritual. So, they lived a life of asceticism, thinking that they could better serve God. The point here is that there is nothing dishonorable about marriage. It is not something to be shunned.

We are told that “Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled…….”. If God brings along the right person, there is nothing evil or wrong about sex. After all, if it weren’t for sex, you wouldn’t be around. Right? There in nothing wrong with sex within the marriage. Within the marriage. Within the marriage! In the past, we didn’t have to emphasize that, but now, in our current culture, it is absolutely necessary to emphasize the fact that it refers to WITHIN THE MARRIAGE! We are suffering the consequences of infidelity with the current breakdown of the family and the rise in single parent families. The whole social order is being disrupted because of the careless, loose attitude that we have towards sexual relationships.

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So, marriage is honorable and in marriage the bed is undefiled, “…….but whoremongers and adulterers, God will judge.” Interesting that he threw that part into this scripture, don’t you think? He drives home the importance of being married and not having sex outside of marriage.

In 1 Corinthians, Chapter 6, we read “Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ?” Our bodies have been joined unto Jesus Christ. Paul told the Corinthians that the church is a body of Christ, members in particular. We’ve been joined to Christ, in the body of Christ, the church of Jesus Christ, being the body of Christ. And, Paul tells us not to yield our members as instruments for unrighteousness, but yield our members as instruments of righteousness unto the Lord. This means that we should yield our bodies to God for His use, not for the fulfilling of our sexual drives.

Paul then asks them a question. Since your bodies are the members of Christ, “Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a harlot?” He then answers his own question by adding “Certainly not!” We see here that our body is a member of Christ. It’s to be used for Him. We are to yield it as an instrument for Him to use for His purposes.
Should I then take this body, which is a member of Christ, and go out and have an affair? God forbid, Paul said.

We are then asked “Or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her?” Because you are a member of Christ, when you take this member of Christ body and join it to another outside of marriage, you are literally bringing Christ into that relationship. Paul said that this is unthinkable!

For “the two shall become one flesh”. To me, this is simply shocking! You see, the Lord has said, concerning this sexual union, the two become one. So, an affair is actually joining Christ in the relationship.

It goes on to say “But he who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with Him. So, flee sexual immorality.” It is important that we have purpose in our hearts to live a life of moral purity. We read in the book of Daniel that he purposed in his heart not to defile his body with the king’s meat. That’s the purpose. I’ve purposed in my heart. I’m not going to do it! We need to make these kinds of purposes in our hearts. I’m not going to commit fornication.

You see, the time to make your decision isn’t when she is standing there before you naked. You don’t, at that time, make a decision to do it or not! That isn’t the time the decision is made. The decision is made long before a person gets to that situation. If you have gotten to that point of infidelity, your action has already been predetermined. I purpose not to defile myself with the king’s meat. I purpose not to commit fornication. I purpose not to have an affair or commit an act of infidelity. To purpose long in advance, is an act that needs to be a part of our whole process of thinking, concerning our body.

With my body being an instrument of God, to be used by God in the accomplishing of His purposes, I choose not to defile my body, because I’m not going to bring Christ into some kind of an ungodly relationship. We must, in all things, “flee sexual immorality”!

In the story of Joseph in the Old Testament, he had established and purposed in his heart. I’m God’s child. I’m a part of God’s people. So, when Potiphar’s wife sought to entice him, and even grabbed him with the intent of forcing him into bed with her, he fled. He had predetermined not to bring God into an immoral action.

holy matrimonyPaul wrote to Timothy and he said, “Flee youthful lusts!”

“Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.” So, sexual immorality is within the body.

He goes on to add “Or, do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, who you have from God, and you are not on your own?”

The Holy Spirit is dwelling in you, God’s glorious gift, and the gift of the Holy Spirit. When, on the day of Pentecost, the people were all gathered together, as Peter preached, they came under conviction, by the Holy Spirit. They began to say men and brothers, what shall we do? We blew it! We crucified the Lord of glory! Peter said, repent and be baptized in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins. You shall receive the gift of the Holy Spirit! So he is of God! You have the Holy Spirit from God. God’s gift to you! He is dwelling in you.

So, you are not on your own. You can’t say the things that we hear every day on TV, on the internet, in movies, like “It’s my body. I can do as I please.” The current day thing of “If it feels good, do it” is not different from the words used in the days of Noah. That may be true of the person in the world, but it is not true of the child of God. It’s not your body anymore. It’s been redeemed! You’ve been bought with a price. You were once a slave, enslaved to the lust of your flesh. But, Jesus purchased you with His own blood. He redeemed you from that lost, enslaved state, that you might be free to serve Him and to worship Him.

The text goes on to say “For you were bought at a price; therefore, glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s.” I’m not my own! I’ve been bought with a price; therefore, I live to glorify God and to please Him because He owns me! I have no right of my own. I have relinquished that right to Him. He has redeemed me from that old life of destruction, of death, of misery, of indulgence. He has delivered me that I might live now unto Him in the newness of life in Christ Jesus, through the power of the Holy Spirit. Oh, God, help us! These are vital, important, issues that we need to give careful attention to as the children of God. May God help us to realize that we belong to Him. This body in which we now live is now the temple of the Holy Spirit, who is dwelling in me. I’m not my own! He bought me with a price; therefore, it is my duty, my obligation to glorify Him through this body.

The apostle Paul declared his desire that Christ be glorified in His body. That’s my desire, he said, whether by life or by death, I don’t care. It’s just that I want Christ to be glorified in my body. That was his purpose of living. For me to live is Christ! To die is gain! But, as long as I’m living in this body, I want Christ to be glorified in this body.
That should be the desire of each of us, that Christ be glorified in our bodies because they are really His!

So, any form of sexual immorality, whether it be sex outside of marriage, adultery, internet porn, or any other immoral relationship, the Christian needs to keep in mind that we are the body of Christ and that, in any relationship in which we choose to engage, we are not alone. Christ is being dragged into that relationship, also.

If we keep that in mind, when predetermining what to do, it makes for an easy choice.

I pray that the Holy Spirit will impress these truths upon our hearts that we would not just be hearers of the Word, but doers of the Word, lest we just deceive ourselves. We are warned over and over again in the Scriptures about self-deception. I pray that the Lord will guide us, that we might live in the Spirit and walk in the Spirit and come into a full recognition that our bodies are the temple of the Holy Spirit, which dwells in us, which we have from God. May we commit ourselves, our bodies, as living sacrifices. May they be holy and acceptable to God!

Just my thoughts!
Don D. Stephens